How a Survey, a Facebook Post, and a Picnic Built a Group of Best Friends: Abby and Andrea’s Story

Abby:

I had a boyfriend at the time, so I was mostly taking it for fun. And during the middle of COVID in freshman year, it’s nice to meet people. So I thought it’d just be a good opportunity to do that.

Andrea:

I wasn’t gonna do it at first, but I ended up filling it out with a bunch of my friends. I was buying into the mindset of just “whatever,” not really expecting anything. It wasn’t until I got my results that I was like, “Oh, this is an actual person.”

Andrea:

The thing is, we have the same initials. So at first we both thought, “Oh, they messed up and paired us with ourselves.” It was on my friend’s birthday when I got the email, and I was really confused, and told my friends, like, “Guys, they messed up, it’s just me.”

Abby:

I think it was also at the same time we got the percentage match, and we were like a 99.99 percent match. So that plus the same initials, I was like, there’s no way this is correct.

Andrea:

Immediately after I got her name, I remembered that she had just added me on Instagram like two days before. We’re in the same radio program, but because of COVID, we had never had a meeting in person. The most I’d seen anyone in the club was through Zoom, so I vaguely knew of Abby, but not really. But I was like, “No, I’ve seen this girl’s name before, she just requested me.”

Abby:

You DMed me when the results came out, like, “Hey, we got matched!” And so we went out to lunch and chatted.

Andrea:

The first time we had lunch was incredibly standard. We had a ton of things in common, which is no surprise, since we had a 99.99 percent match. But I remembered you mentioning at lunch that you were planning on living with your freshman year roommate again in the fall.

Abby:

Then what actually happened was that one of Andrea’s roommates posted on our Class of 2024 Facebook page that they were looking for two additional roommates to their group of 4. And I had just gotten lunch with Andrea. So my roommate and I thought, “That’d be great.”

Andrea:

And meanwhile, I talked to my freshman year roommate, and told her that we might be able to get this girl Abby and her roommate Erin to live with us. So I asked you to grab lunch a second time with the intention of asking you to room with us. But you also had the thought of asking me because you saw that post.

So we went into that lunch unintentionally with the same motive and just didn’t know. Everything about it was a very perfect coincidence.

Abby:

There weren’t really any bigger social functions where we could all hang out. And my freshman roommate was actually at home that second semester. So when we decided we’d all be living together, they obviously wanted to meet her, so we did a FaceTime call with the six of us. And when my roommate came to visit in person, we all hung out then.

But at the end of the year, there was an outdoor picnic for radio, and that was the first time I had seen any of those people in person.

Andrea:

I honestly barely remembered meeting Erin that semester, because all of it was so go-go-go. But I remember that picnic, because it was the first time I met a lot of people that I’m currently friends with now. I think of it as the switch between my freshman and sophomore year experience.

And it was nice to have Abby there, even though we’d only really met a few times. I just felt like, “I get this person, this makes sense.” I think it’s just nice to have that sense of familiarity, so you’re not alone trying to make friends. It was definitely a turning point in my head for my college experience.

Abby:

I also similarly had my core group of friends that I hung out with throughout the year, and this was my first time meeting this whole new group of people that I’d only seen virtually and never really interacted with. I think that it was nice to know Andrea and Andrea’s roommate, because they were kind of my people as I was being introduced to this bigger group. And now some of these people are our really good friends.

Abby:

I do remember that even during that first lunch, it made total sense why we had matched. Our personalities are so similar.

Andrea:

But I don’t think we ever really talked about the contents or the actual taking of the questionnaire until later. It wasn’t until we started living together that I understood why we have so much in common.

Andrea:

I think our suitemates can corroborate this, but I think we’re the most stubborn people in our group.

Abby:

That was what I was gonna say. You took the words right out of my mouth.

Andrea:

And when logistical things need to be sorted out, it’s always me and Abby working things out to come to a conclusion. Not to toot our own horns, but when things happen it’s usually because we made it happen.

Abby:

We’ll text in the group chat and be like, “Hey, does everybody wanna come over?” and no one will respond. So we’ll be the ones to kind of push things a little bit. We’re also very organized and like things to be done, and be done in a certain way.

Andrea:

And I think part of the reason we’re so close with the people we met at the picnic now is because Abby and I and my roommate were actively trying to make it happen.

Andrea:

In the fall, we tried so many times to make plans as a suite, and they never came to fruition.

Abby:

My favorite instance of that was over Halloweekend, when we were all like, “Yeah, Sunday morning we’re all going on a hike together!” That was just not gonna happen.

Andrea:

One sort of way we complement each other is that I get FOMO really badly and will stay at a function no matter how tired I am, just to have the experience. Whereas Abby tends to go to bed really early and wake up really early. She’s always like, “Let’s just go for a little bit,” and I’m like, “What’s the point of that?”

Abby:

I’d rather just say that I was there, hang out with the people I was with, and then leave.

Andrea:

Yeah, one of the things I’ve learned from being friends with Abby is that you don’t have to stay all the time. The memories that you’ve made, you’ve made, and if you’re tired and hungry and have physical ailments or something, you need to go handle that or you’re not gonna have a good time.

Abby:

We had a video game night last fall. We played a bunch of Mario Kart. That one I almost fell asleep at.

But honestly, one of my favorite nights was when we had this big game night, and a bunch of our radio friends came over. We just played a bunch of board games and had such a fun time.

Andrea:

Our suitemates had previously been reluctant to hang out with our friends from radio, but that was the night we sort of bridged that gap, and they all found out they had a lot in common. It was really fun to see them interact.

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